We have all heard of getting rid of the negative, toxic people in our lives. Well it is not as easy as that if some of these people are family and sometimes we don’t even recognize that in people either. You become so accustomed to the way things are in your life, you accept it and just deal with it.
Not it is time to open your eyes and make sure that you do have the right people in your life.
1. The one’s who never return your call.
We are all busy in our lives, but when a friend or family member calls it is important to take time to talk to them. The ones you are not returning your call or even just picking up the phone to chat are not really there for you.
If this is a constant problem, then it is time to reconsider this relationship. Quit stressing over unanswered calls, or calls not returned. It is time to move on, perhaps one day they will, but don’t put your life on hold for these people.
2. The one’s who are not there for you during crisis.
During our life time we will all go through some sort of crisis. It is part of learning and growing. It is during this time in your life that you see who is truly your friend. The ones who talk to you, comfort you and encourage you. The ones who suddenly do a disappearing act, they are not your true friends. I bet though when you are successful they will suddenly re-appear! Do you really want a ‘friend’ like that?
So be careful and watch who is truly your friend and sticks around. Push the ones away that are only there during the good times.
3. Then there are the one’s who are always taking and not giving.
Here I am not talking about just gifts, or money, I am talking about your time and emotions also. Do you have that one friend that you always feel exhausted after you have talked on the phone or hung out? They are like a leach, they cling to you, sucking every ounce of energy from you. Their life is always in turmoil and they are not doing anything to help themselves. Yet, they take from you your time and energy.
These people are draining and toxic. There really isn’t much you can do to help this person besides walking away. We cannot fix everyone’s life. Not everyone is ready for that to happen. So be careful of the leaches in your life.
4. The abusive relationship.
As we all know abuse can come in many ways from people. Verbal, physical and mental are just three forms of abuse. These are quite serious and need to be dealt with immediately. Being supportive to someone that is going through this is important to being a good friend. But what if it is you going through this and your friends don’t help? Seek professional help, approach a family member or friend. There is no need to feel embarrassed or ashamed, men and women can be abused. Hiding this only causes this issue to continue. Bullies grow up to be bullies.
Get help and get out of this abusive relationship as soon as possible. You deserve better than this.
So dump the ‘friends’ that are toxic, stick with the good friends.
Always live life to its fullest, be happy and keep moving forward to reach your goals.
Push those obstacles out of your life!